Thursday, March 10, 2011


Have you heard of the book, The 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman?   I read the book several years ago and I thought it was phenomenal.  I think all couples should read it together so that they can learn each other's love language and have a better understanding of their relationship. 

"Of the countless ways we can show love to one another, five key categories, or five love languages, proved to be universal and comprehensive—everyone has a love language, and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch."

The website has a quiz you can take to find out which love language you speak and the definition of your love language.  The highest number in a particular section determines what type of love language you speak.  My love language for instance, is equal among three different types because I scored 9, 9, and 9 in three areas making 9 the high score.  I thought it was quite interesting because It was spot on.  Seriously, it fits me like a glove.  My love language is Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, and Quality Time. All of these are equally important to me.

Words of Affirmation:  Actions don't always speak louder than words if this is your love language.  Unsolicited compliments mean the world to you.  Hearing the words, "I love you" are important-hearing the reasons behind that love sens your spirits skyward.  Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

 Physical Touch:  This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive

Quality Time: In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Yes, my language is three types rolled into one.  Hmmm, I wonder if this makes me more difficult to be in a relationship with?  I do get upset very easily if I feel ignored or left hanging for a period of time.

To find out your own love language click here and after you learn what type of love language you speak please leave it in my comment section.  I'm curious to know what everyone learns about themselves.  Thank you and have fun with this quiz.  When you click on the link you will see several icons, one for wives one for husbands one for teens, one for singles, etc. just click on the one that applies to you.


  1. My language of love is Words of Affirmation. With it being a 10. Physical Touch was a 9. Interesting. You have great topics!

  2. Mine was overwhelmingly Quality Time at 10 with Acts of Service at 7. That may be indicative of a 35 year marriage where over time we've grown closer and enjoy doing more things together -- just the two of us with no one else involved.

  3. Thanks for the link, JarieLyn. Interesting. And pretty accurate I'd say. I came out with 11 for Quality Time and 9 for Physical Touch.
    I'm going to send the link to my daughter to do the "Parent of Teenagers" one!

  4. Wow that is great! I took the test and I agree with the results. My language is Quality Time I scored an 11 in it, The next highest score was words of Affirmation I scored a 8 in it. It sounds like a great book to read I'll have to pick me one up. Thanks for telling us about it.

  5. Hi JarieLyn! I scored 11 in quality time. the other three were mid score and gifts was only two for me. time and caring and helping and concern and being a best friend is most important to me. fun quiz!

  6. Well it should come as no surprise to me that physical touch was bottom of my list - kind of sad but it's how I've always been I guess -

  7. I read that book. I'm quality time and physical touch.



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